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I heard or read somewhere that life will continue to give us lessons until we learn it.

Two weeks after graduating from college, I was already teaching college students.

I was so idealistic, perfectionist and wouldn’t tolerate students who were cheating, talking while I was teaching and not doing their work. Yeah, I was really mean! Many of my former students would attest to that!

The thing was even if I knew I needed to change, I continued on doing what I was doing because I was afraid if I lost my control, if I became friendly and acted my age (I was just 20 then!, some of my students were even older than me!), I felt my students wouldn’t respect me and may took advantage of my kindness.

So I continued on with my demeanor; I pushed my students to meet my expectations!

I abhorred cheating, if they did so (I was good at finding out; because all our activities were computerized), the next day they would find their names written in bold caps posted in the classroom! And I didn’t care about their feelings at all!

I was the authority; they needed to follow my commands.

I remember students in the hallway would just stop talking if they saw me walking towards them!

My students knew that they should to focus on my lecture; otherwise, they would be criticized, embarrassed and put down.

My style of teaching and behavior continued on for almost a year.

I was happy my students were struggling to study my subject! I was happy they couldn’t cheat, well, because I would make 3 sets of test for a single lesson!

But I also knew in time I needed to stop my “being so mean” and learn to find ME again.

I thought I was in control as I tried my best to change my students, when I should have been changing me.
It took time but, thank God, the change of heart, happened. I was sorry I affected my students in ways and depths I wasn’t sure. But, if it was all negative, I am sorry.
It was all inner work. I was operating in fear and negative vibes. It actually caused me to be stressed-out and not live a full life at all!
When I started to let go and found peace within me; when I allowed acceptance for people’s uniqueness, differences and varied levels of intelligence to take over, I found joy in teaching and making my students learn. I was freed!
I thank God for the 3 years of experience in teaching college students, that time of my life was pertinent for me to learn my lessons and to prepare me for what came next.

Lord, may You continue to guide us as we face life’s challenges. May we be freed from fear and negativity. Instead, may we open ourselves to love, trust and acceptance. In Jesus’ name.




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Reading and Loving it!

I love to read.


Growing up, I would just be in my room reading whatever book is available.
We have a mini library at home, super-mini but it was all-powerful books. The books mom compiled  and collected for us to read are all books on living, loving and learning.
I remember authors like Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie and Norman Vincent Peale among others.


I have grown to love libraries; at least checking books out! Lol!


When I was working in Makati, Phils; it was a bonus that our office was near National Bookstore! I got to spend my excess lunch minutes just browsing Self-Help books. There I found some more powerful authors like Leo Buscaglia; Wayne Dyer; Andrew Matthews, our very own Bo Sanchez,  among others.
Up until now, I still try to read as much as I could; and am passing the habit to my kids.
There is just so much power in the written word. Reading allows us to broaden our horizon; look beyond our own “boxes”; get to know ourselves more and learn about our power within.


These authors influenced and changed my life! They continue to do so.
Someday soon, I hope to meet Wayne Dyer; Andrew Matthews; Dalai Lama among others and be inspired!


More so, I’d love to meet the greatest author of our lives someday – not soon though! Lol!

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Stop the DRAMA

Every person who shows up in our lives has something to teach us – and usually these are NOT the people who tell us good things; who appreciate us and who are kind to us – BUT people who irritate, anger and push our buttons.

I remember the saying, “He who angers you, controls you!” 

So, it won’t help even if we run away and move someplace else! Because, until we learn the lesson, He/She, They, It will still be there in whatever form – to annoy and mess our lives! Lol!

They are our teachers! Our great teachers! 

I have my own great teacher too! Who is? my very own husband! Lol!

Well, it think we are soul mates, since he said I do the same to him! Lol!

But then really, sometimes we need to pick our battles. 

Until we master self-control, patience and tolerance, I guess, we will always have reasons to get angry, annoyed, irritated and sometimes it’s not about the other person, but about how we are feeling deep inside. 

Come to think of it, if we are at peace, accepting and loving, I am sure we will be feeling otherwise. Right? 

Nobody could hurt us without our permission. But if we are, then there’s a lesson there.We may need to learn, heal from it or recognize its existence.

Bottom line: We will all see the purpose of the experience and we will all learn the lesson in time. 

I just hope and pray that it happens soon, so we won’t have as much drama or “tele-novelas” with our lives.


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I read and copied with permission from Mark Morfe’s blog

Really funny. 

Follow the chart, and see The Differences Between Westerners and Asians.


Blue — Westerners  

Red — Asians

(1) Opinion

Westerners: Talk to the point

Asians: Talk around the circle, especially if opinions are different

(2) Way of Life

Westerners: individualism, think of himself or herself.

Asians: enjoy gathering with family and friends, solving their problems, and know each other’s business.

(3) Punctuality

Westerners: on time.

Asians: in time.

(4) Contacts

Westerners: Contact to related person only.

Asians: Contact everyone everywhere, business very successful.


(5) Anger

Westerners: Show that I am angry.

Asians: I am angry, but still smiling… (Beware!)

(6) Queue when Waiting

Westerners: Queuing in an orderly manner.

Asians: Queuing?! What’s that?

(7) Sundays on the Road

Westerners: Enjoy weekend relaxing peacefully.

Asians: Enjoy weekend in crowded places, like going to the mall.

(8) Party

Westerners: Only gather with their own group.

Asians: All focus on the one activity that is hosted by the CEO.


(9) In the restaurant

Westerners: Talk softly and gently in the restaurant.

Asians: Talk and laugh loudly like they own the restaurant.

(10) Travelling

Westerners: Love sightseeing and enjoy the scenery.

Asians: Taking picture is the most important; scenery is just for the background. 

(11) Handling of Problems

Westerners: Take any steps to solve the problems.

Asians: Try to avoid conflicts, and if can, don’t leave any trail.

(12) Three meals a day

Westerners: Good meal for once a day is sufficed.

Asians: At least 3 good meals a day.

(13) Transportation

Westerners: Before drove cars, now cycling for environmental protection.

Asians: Before no money and rode a bike, now got money and drive a car.

(14) Elderly in day-to-day life

Westerners: When old, there is snoopy for companionship.

Asians: When old, guarantee will not be lonely, as long as willing to babysit grandkids.

(15) Moods and Weather

Westerners: The logic is: rain is pain.

Asians: More rain, more prosperity

(16) The Boss

Westerners: The boss is part of the team.

Asians: The boss is a fierce god. 


(17) What’s Trendy

Westerners: Eat healthy Asian cuisine.

Asians: Eat expensive Western cuisine.

(18) The Child

Westerners: The kid is going to be independent and make his/her own living.

Asians: Slog whole life for the kids, the center of your life.


True or not? It’s up to you 🙂




Thanks for sharing Mark.


-day 175




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Life’s ugly truth.

Life’s never the same again. Three years ago, I was proclaiming how doors, windows and rooftops will open just because I have started to take on a new step for my professional development! Flashback.. I enrolled in MA in Information Technology.. and I was really excited, I even dreamt of a company in North America.. in my blog I wrote.. who knows I might even work there!… and I tell you, it came to pass!
It has taken me a long time to write because I feel I don’t have anything good to say. I feel anxious, worried and scared. Three years has passed. Many beautiful, ugly and in between experiences happened already and continues to be happening still. The ugly truth remains.. all is temporary. I don’t want to accept that. Period. So I am going against the tide, I am struggling my mind to think otherwise, I am pushing my mind to the other direction. I am pressured. I am gasping. I am tired. It doesn’t show because I know how to hide. But, deep inside, I am still pushing. hahaha. So now I am immune.
As ugly as the truth is, I can always sour grape too.. hahaha!
So, with that mindset.. I am excited again! Thinking that I am creating my own reality with the thoughts that I am making now. Everything will work out for the best. Just as it has always been. I may not know where the tide is leading me this time, but I am sure.. I am still being led to the direction of my dreams. Temporary or not, there is a purpose. And let that purpose be served.
And so it is.

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I have a 3 year syndrome. That is, every 3 years I change jobs! hehe I don’t know why but I just seem to do it. That’s a lie. I do know why. So I do it hehe 🙂

1994-1997. 3 years. SHC. Teacher.

1997-2000. 3 years. ASTI. Account Manager.

2000-2002… oops 2 years. FPI. Account Manager.. no plans of leaving yet actually, just that I need to give birth to Mymy and I have no family support in Makati!

2002-2005. 3 years. Bum! hehe

2005-2007… oops 2 years again! LCNHS. Teacher. And yes, I really have no plans of leaving, but Kristine Pabico bugged me to apply online to work in the US so the need to resign! 🙂 (Related story here: Real Magic)

and now..

2007-2009… still here. But, let’s see where 2010 will bring me though hahaha!

Actually, I seem to have mellowed down.. maybe I have found home in being a Special Education Teacher here in New Orleans.. or have allowed myself to settle down, career wise? I hope to think that is the reason why. I am thankful for all the blessings that God has given me. I dream, He makes it come true.

I could still remember always telling Mymy’s yaya before, if she’ll ask me where I will be going.. I would always say.. “to America.. join me?” haha, who would have thought it will come true?

I also remember $ dollar signs in my bedroom and one dollar bill in my wallet to simply attract it, for the sake of just trying to attract it… and it was indeed attracted!

I am grateful to God, for He makes beautiful beautiful stories in my life. He provides me with beautiful people to help me change too. Be it the hard way, like in the face of my husband… hehe, colleagues at work, who would show me beautiful family values and insights in life even people I’m not really close with, and yet they too, impart beautiful choices in what they do and believe in.

My Lingkod friend, Elma, knew how stubborn I am when it comes to His leading. And yet, He continues to persevere.. He continues to hold my hands and lead me to the right path.

I am tapping myself real hard now.. for I feel like I am cruising.. going with the flow.. at peace with me and the people around me. THIS is not NORMAL! haha .. the 3 year syndrome, eh. hehe

But I guess, God is showing me another phase of life, the phase I failed to see because I keep on changing and moving about. I guess, this time, God is teaching me to WAIT. WAIT and SEE. For this time, I feel He is in charge.. He is in the driver’s seat.. and I close my eyes and just make myself sleep, so I won’t comment, nag, demand, or maneuver. I make myself calm down, for I trust He will take care of me and my family, whichever way the road will lead us.. For all I know, He might be driving us to roam the world already? who knows? hehe..

And so I wait. And so it is. 🙂

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Things happen…

Just taking notes…

  • Mymy did not sleep with us tonight. She is 7 years old and we allowed her to sleep over at a friend’s house. She was just 3-year-old then! Now she is almost by my shoulder and sleeps over!
  • Mimoi prefers to sleep in the tent Santa gave him. He likes the space! hehe
  • Dennis finds treasure in the cabinets, wooden furniture being thrown out by our neighbors.. aka trash! From all the scrap he builds furniture we can use! Creativity and Ingenuity in action!
  • Just watched Confessions of a Shopaholic and loved the line.. “The RV does not define me. You and your mother do.” Sometimes, I seem to always need reminders, just like that.. I am no longer a HS student or a single lady. I have a husband, I am a mother and I have 2 kids. My earth age is increasing yearly.. Fine lines and wrinkles are showing.. White hair does too! And yet, I seem to always forget. My life is my family. My husband, my daughter and my son defines me. No matter how I sometimes seem to forget, life has changed.

2009 is almost at its end. So many things has transpired this year. All for a reason and purpose.

There are a lot of things to be grateful for. And I am grateful.

As 2010 nears, I am just excited to see great things happen to my mind, heart and soul. To dream some more.. To see my thoughts become things again and again.

Things happen.. things will happen.. the truth is there are infinite possibilities. That’s where life starts to take its own adventure.. knowing the truth about ourselves. I speak like a guru and yet I still have so much to learn!.. but you see I am excited again.

Excited to start a new leaf. Excited to turn the page. Excited to uncover the truth about me and God’s miracle.

Simply excited and grateful for another opportunity to grow, change and see life’s beauty this 2010!

May our dreams come true this 2010! Cheers!:)

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